I must say… I’m enjoying the blog experience! I’ve been reading so much more about people, stories and ideas that move and inspire me… Writing is a struggle that gets easier and easier to overcome (even if it still takes quite some time to write anything). The moment I decided to let go of perfectionism and setting unreasonable standards for myself, I got to tap into my natural «talker» mode and the writing flowed more.
Anyways, enough chit chat and on to serious business…
What are you here to do? what is your grand purpose?
After the initial reaction of surprise and anguish of having this question being thrown at you (the title of the blog is supposed to be about fun… and well what’s fun about trying to lay out your whole life plan and purpose?), some of you would give a fairly clear answer, simple structured, the fruit of years of deep introspection, analysis and work. But most of you would probably answer this question with a simple and paralyzing «Uh, I dunno…». Either you haven’t really thought about it because you’re too busy, you haven’t really bothered to worry about the grand scheme of things or you’ve thought about it too much and it’s been keeping you up…
Regardless of the answer, there’s always a sense of gravity and importance that accompanies this question. We take finding our life’s one and unique purpose so seriously. I must figure it all out, I must get it all right at all cost. If I don’t, there might be dire consequences!!! I could pursue the “wrong” career, get into the “wrong” relationship, and just screw up my “entire” life… We believe we need our lives to revolve around that one single purpose and set so much pressure on ourselves on finding it. But does it really even matter? Whether we find the answer to this question or not, we will still be alive and breathing at that exact moment.
We get so caught up focusing either on the little things in life or the very big questions that we forget the here and now. We get lost because we just take ourselves so seriously… When in fact, things can be very simple if we stop taking ourselves so seriously.
Don’t take yourself so seriously, have fun!
I read this awesome blog post from Steve Pavlina who is doing a 30 Day Disneyland challenge… And I simply thought to myself. “that’s must be so awesome to give yourself permission to do that” and I immediately felt like doing it as well! I heard that inner child just shout out joyfully at the possibility. But then, almost instantaneously, I heard that “responsible” voice in me (you know… the one that kind of sounds like your parents), urging me to be reasonable, analysing and judging all ideas, situations… basically this grown up voice shut down my inner child.
It’s human conditioning from years of traditional education which molded us into the «responsible» adults that we have become… But in fact, that inner child voice of ours is much more present than we think. It’s that voice that looks in wonder at some new experience. It’s that one voice that laughs at the silliest and most random things like getting caught in the freezing rain in Stockholm and feeling like we’re getting blown away by the terrible wind in a Mary Poppins movie. It’s that caring, loving and playful voice that comes out when you’re around Friends and loved ones… It’s that voice inspiring you hope and excitement and curiosity. It’s actually your un-conditioned and natural voice under the constant «serious» chit chat going on.
We all have that inner child voice. And my advice to you today is just to listen to it and follow it. Answer a simple question : «How can I have fun today?». Remember that was all you ever thought about? Forget your obligations or any practical aspects at first when thinking about this. Don’t over analyse or plan now… just do it! Be spontaneous! Be a kid again for that one time and see what comes out of it!
When I was a child, I desperately wanted to grow up and talk to grown ups because I thought they were these great responsible, super human beings! Then… When I eventually «grew up», to my great disappointment, I realized all grown ups, not one exception, are simply kids who try to act «grown up». We remain the clueless and lost kids we’ve always been but we take ourselves so seriously with all our many responsibilities and stress! Adulthood really should come with a warning sign :
WARNING : Don’t grow up… It’s a trap!!!
Because to be honest we never truly grow up… We remain small, with our tantrums and ideas and dreams. So since we never do change, the least we could do is truly assume what we are and enjoy the true value of our childlikeness in adulthood… My dear friends, I simply invite you guys to stop worrying one moment and laugh, jump and play!